Life Goes On.
Choose your own path and get past the obstacles. Life is hard, you'll face many obstacles, make mistakes, and get hurt from time to time. Everybody makes mistakes and everybody gets hurt. This doesn’t mean you’re condemned to failure. You have all the power and the potential to determine your destiny by creating your own path to happiness. This will not be easy but you can do it. All you have to do is realize your power and decide what you want to do with your life. You have to make a conscious decision to be happy. You must set your priorities and goals, then stick to your plans. If you’re firm enough in your decisions, no one will be able to get you off the right track. Life will present you with endless opportunities to be successful, but only if you keep moving forward. The road to success is a thorny path but that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be, if you're going to live a beautiful life.
Your experiences should change you, but you have to determine what kind of change they will leave. Maybe you’ve been hurt recently, and you’re still feeling the emotional pain. If you hold on to the pain long enough, it can make serious scars on your soul. However, you can also choose to leave the pain behind. What happened in the past should stay in the past. You can hold a grudge forever, you can victimize yourself and blame other people for your emotional state. Or, you can choose to live through the pain, learn something from the experience, and move on a stronger person. If somebody has hurt you, especially if it’s somebody you deeply care about, you will need some time to get past it and to recover. Forgiving others is the right thing to do. Not because it helps the person your forgiving, but because it heals you from the pain they caused.
Acknowledge your feelings and take responsibility for them.
The worst thing you can do to yourself is to allow the fear from getting hurt to keep you paralyzed. You might then choose to avoid getting hurt again and shut off from the world. In no time, you’ll end up avoiding contact with other people, and blaming others for your hurt. Which will cause more damage to you than to those who hurt you. In fact, the people who hurt you might not even care. Unfortunately, being scared is the easiest thing to do and many people fall into the traps of playing victim. Another way to deal with getting hurt is to deny and avoid your feelings. It’s okay to feel hurt and to say it. You can only suppress your feelings for so long. After a while, suppressed emotions will start eating you up from the inside out. In the end, you’ll start feeling depressed and hurt with no apparent reason, but the reason is because you have suppressed emotions.
If you want to avoid the depression, resentment, and bitterness, you have to learn to get over the pain. You have to let go of the past. In order for your wounds to heal, of course, you first have to feel the pain they cause. If someone has caused you pain, it’s okay to feel hurt. And it’s okay to express it. Your feelings are real and cannot disregard them. You have to realize exactly what’s going on and to live through it in the moment. It'll be easier if you find a person you can share your experience with. Someone who will truly understand what you’re going through. Sometimes sharing your story can be scary. However, you have to push past your fear be completely honest and straightforward when sharing. Don't dig up previous hurts and incidents, instead be specific about the issue that’s currently eating you up. Explain exactly what got you upset and why. Allow the other person listening to give you advice because it will give you another point of view to consider. You might even find that you were wrong and could have done something differently. Which could have cause you to avoid the pain you're experiencing.
Forgive yourself and others and move on.
If you've been deeply hurt by a loved one the healing process will take time. The process will hurt, but with forgiveness, the painful feelings will start to fade away. You will probably never forget the pain you felt, but it will hurt less and less as time passes. You can't let a misunderstanding stop you from forgiving yourself and those involved. One little detail can make a world of difference, causing the entire situation to be one big misunderstanding. You can’t change what happened but you can learn from it and move on. You have to choose to let it go and choose to be happy again. Whatever happened in the past is now over and your life can go on. Your experiences will change you, but you choose if the change is positive or negative. The most important thing to remember is that you have the power to change your life for better or for worse, no one else.